Shimmer Stripesย 

I’ve been working my butt off to become healthier and fitter. For myself and for my kids, and I have so far lost 23kg. But let’s be real for a minute. 

My body isn’t the same as it was 12 years ago. And it won’t ever be. I have separated stomach muscles, so my core strength is basically non existent. I have a ridiculous amount of excess skin on my breasts and tummy due to pregnancy, weight loss and just life. But I also have these wonderful shimmering stripes on my stomach otherwise known as “stretch marks.” ๐Ÿ™„ I don’t know about you, but I much prefer shimmer stripes. ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ


 My kids asked me about them. “What are those stripes? What are they from?” I strongly believe there is power in our words. Especially the words we choose to use in front of our children. So I told them “when I got to grow you in my tummy, these pretty, sparkling lines appeared. How cool is that? Aren’t they pretty??” And they all agreed. Dex even asked if he’d get any sparkly bits on his tummy. ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜ 


Society has this habit of making us feel bad about things that naturally happen to our bodies as we get older or as life happens. Thing we can’t help, but are expected to hide or to use creams or potions to change or “fix.” But I’m changing that perception, starting with my kids. ๐Ÿ’• how about you? ๐Ÿ˜˜ I’ll be fitter, stronger and healthier but I’ll also be uniquely and wonderfully me. Shimmer stripes and all. ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿป

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Fill Your Cup.

Unconditional love. They talk about it when it comes to parents showing unconditional love to their kids, but you never hear of the love these children show their parents. 

Lately I’ve been on a journey to find myself again, and to take care of myself. After my beautiful Nana passed away nearly two years ago now, I just gave up on myself. I became someone I didn’t know because I didn’t know myself without her, and I just stopped doing anything for myself. My grief consumed me, and from that point on our lives became harder as time went on. 


We had all three of our children diagnosed with ASD and then my days became running from psych appointments to OT appointments, to speech appointments and from kindy runs to school runs. So I let my cup drain and become completely dry. But for us to fill our families cups when our own cups are empty, is just impossible. So mums, take notice. Because it took me far too long to accept that for my family to be happy, I need to be too. For too long I saw it as being selfish and how dare I want to be a real person. ๐Ÿ™ˆ I’m a mum! How dare I exist outside of that “mum” world? So I’m trying to keep my cup at least half full so I have enough to share. 


To fill my cup, I’ve been trying to get to the gym and take care of my body as much as possible because for the longest time I’ve always come last. And I’m not just talking about “just behind everyone else by a hair” last. I’m talking everyone has packed up, gone home and gone to bed after the race while I’m still heading for the finish line. So now that I’ve seen that my needs are equally as important, I’m happier and healthier. And my kids who have seen me at my worst, and then trying to get to my best, have loved me and supported me this whole time. (And asking me if I went to an exercise gym or a Pokรฉmon gym ๐Ÿ˜‚) That is unconditional love. It’s not just about the parents showing it. It’s mutual. 

So parents, grandparents and carers, don’t ever think that doing something for you means that your kids are being let down or that they’re going to be worse off. The fact of the matter is that we all need a break sometimes. We all need to feel that glimpse of “holy shit I am actually a person and have an identity!” to keep our heads above water. It doesn’t make you a bad parent or a bad person. It makes you A HUMAN BEING. And if you see your partner struggling a little bit, TELL THEM they need a break. Send them out for some “me” time. We all need it. I know I did. ๐Ÿ˜˜

Little Chiyo Tutus

I first came across Little Chiyo in 2011, just after I had our first son, Dexter. I sat there staring in awe at these fluffy, beautiful tutus day dreaming of perhaps one day having a daughter. I remember the feeling as it popped up in my Facebook. They were so full, the colour was so soft and delicate. I remember thinking if I ever have a daughter, THIS will be the place I get her a tutu from. I’m not sure what it was that drew me to this shop, or these particular tutus but they had a different look to ones I had seen in the past. (I later found out this was because the ones I was lusting over were hand tied with 100 yards of the finest quality tulle.)

In 2012 we fell pregnant and found out we were having a boy. We thought we were done after having Kingston, so all thoughts of a daughter had been removed from my mind, although I really would have loved to have a little girl. Well! In 2014 my husband decided we were going to have a daughter. Luck was on his side haha! When we found out we were having a girl, I stalked Little Chiyo’s FB and IG pages and picked which tutu I would buy for her first birthday. How I longed for the day where I could pick a beautiful luscious tutu from Little Chiyo. I contacted Sasha and she was amazing. She was willing to chat to me about the tutu, and the best way to go about purchasing, and how I’d been waiting for this day! 

When our tutu arrived, I opened the parcel. A beautiful aroma of musk lollies filled Elsa’s room and I immediately fell in love. It was well before Elsa’s 1st birthday but I HAD to try it on her. The stunningly soft tulle was layered, each tied by hand and perfectly placed with a satin bow pinned to the back by a diamantรฉ love heart. And so began mine (and Elsa’s) love affair with Little Chiyo, and tutus in general. 


Since that moment, Sasha has helped us with birthday tutus, Easter tutus and the most extravagant full length Cinderella inspired tutu for Disney on Ice. 


When we went to Disney on Ice, we were stopped by numerous amounts of people asking where Elsa’s tutu was from, what her name was, how old is she, and some even asked to take photos of her! It’s a testament to Sasha’s amazing work. 


Not only does Sasha make these beautifully handcrafted tutus, but she takes the time to speak to her customers and make sure they are getting exactly what they want. Her customer service is impeccable. 

So, if you’re a tutu lover, you NEED to have at least one of these beauties in your home. 


Little Chiyo Tutus can be purchased by visiting http://www.littlechiyo.com/default.html


*Elsa also wears @little_hearts_ leotards @tootsietoesshoes and @clip_pa_dee_clip hair accessories. You can find these brands on Instagram.