Fill Your Cup.

Unconditional love. They talk about it when it comes to parents showing unconditional love to their kids, but you never hear of the love these children show their parents. 

Lately I’ve been on a journey to find myself again, and to take care of myself. After my beautiful Nana passed away nearly two years ago now, I just gave up on myself. I became someone I didn’t know because I didn’t know myself without her, and I just stopped doing anything for myself. My grief consumed me, and from that point on our lives became harder as time went on. 


We had all three of our children diagnosed with ASD and then my days became running from psych appointments to OT appointments, to speech appointments and from kindy runs to school runs. So I let my cup drain and become completely dry. But for us to fill our families cups when our own cups are empty, is just impossible. So mums, take notice. Because it took me far too long to accept that for my family to be happy, I need to be too. For too long I saw it as being selfish and how dare I want to be a real person. 🙈 I’m a mum! How dare I exist outside of that “mum” world? So I’m trying to keep my cup at least half full so I have enough to share. 


To fill my cup, I’ve been trying to get to the gym and take care of my body as much as possible because for the longest time I’ve always come last. And I’m not just talking about “just behind everyone else by a hair” last. I’m talking everyone has packed up, gone home and gone to bed after the race while I’m still heading for the finish line. So now that I’ve seen that my needs are equally as important, I’m happier and healthier. And my kids who have seen me at my worst, and then trying to get to my best, have loved me and supported me this whole time. (And asking me if I went to an exercise gym or a Pokémon gym 😂) That is unconditional love. It’s not just about the parents showing it. It’s mutual. 

So parents, grandparents and carers, don’t ever think that doing something for you means that your kids are being let down or that they’re going to be worse off. The fact of the matter is that we all need a break sometimes. We all need to feel that glimpse of “holy shit I am actually a person and have an identity!” to keep our heads above water. It doesn’t make you a bad parent or a bad person. It makes you A HUMAN BEING. And if you see your partner struggling a little bit, TELL THEM they need a break. Send them out for some “me” time. We all need it. I know I did. 😘

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Miniland Doll Review.

We had the pleasure of being sent a beautiful Miniland Doll from Axis Toys to review this week, and he arrived at the perfect time! It was Elsa’s birthday recently and she had received two gorgeous Miniland Dolls so he was able to join our Miniland family. 


When he arrived, the kids were so excited. (So was I!) Miniland dolls are so realistic, right down to the tiniest details. Their eyes, their little dimples on their knees and even the cute little bumps on their back from their spine! These anatomically correct dolls also smell amazing and are made from the softest vinyl. 


I’ve been asked a couple of times what sets these dolls apart from the rest? What makes them different? Well, as I said they are anatomically correct, but they also promote and normalise cultural and racial diversity and I’m big on that. Miniland dolls come in a diverse range and are an important educational resource, which help comprehend the concepts of family, population groups, the basic rules of relationships and coexistence, respect for racial and sexual diversity.


The kids loved that the head, arms and legs can be articulated so they can be sat, laying down, or used anyway that they please. These dolls promote imagination as they don’t speak or come with accessories so they don’t have a specific way of play, and no small parts mean they’re perfect for age 0 and up! Their realistic hair can be brushed, braided, or basically anything their mummy or daddy wants to do with it. (Let’s just hope they don’t get their hands on scissors!) 

I loved that with these dolls, my kids were able to mimic what we as parents do. I was able to see how much of an impact my style of parenting had on my children. I witnessed them baby wearing, pushing them in the pram, pretending to breastfeed and change their nappy. Nothing made me happier than watching them play this way. 

All in all, these stunning dolls made in Spain are perfect for all children to learn about a multitude of subjects, along with being fun and super cute. Who wouldn’t want one under their Christmas tree this year? 

For your nearest stockist, visit https://www.axistoys.com/ 

Baby carrier by The Littlest Starfish Boutique https://www.etsy.com/au/shop/LittlestStarfish 

Little Chiyo Tutus

I first came across Little Chiyo in 2011, just after I had our first son, Dexter. I sat there staring in awe at these fluffy, beautiful tutus day dreaming of perhaps one day having a daughter. I remember the feeling as it popped up in my Facebook. They were so full, the colour was so soft and delicate. I remember thinking if I ever have a daughter, THIS will be the place I get her a tutu from. I’m not sure what it was that drew me to this shop, or these particular tutus but they had a different look to ones I had seen in the past. (I later found out this was because the ones I was lusting over were hand tied with 100 yards of the finest quality tulle.)

In 2012 we fell pregnant and found out we were having a boy. We thought we were done after having Kingston, so all thoughts of a daughter had been removed from my mind, although I really would have loved to have a little girl. Well! In 2014 my husband decided we were going to have a daughter. Luck was on his side haha! When we found out we were having a girl, I stalked Little Chiyo’s FB and IG pages and picked which tutu I would buy for her first birthday. How I longed for the day where I could pick a beautiful luscious tutu from Little Chiyo. I contacted Sasha and she was amazing. She was willing to chat to me about the tutu, and the best way to go about purchasing, and how I’d been waiting for this day! 

When our tutu arrived, I opened the parcel. A beautiful aroma of musk lollies filled Elsa’s room and I immediately fell in love. It was well before Elsa’s 1st birthday but I HAD to try it on her. The stunningly soft tulle was layered, each tied by hand and perfectly placed with a satin bow pinned to the back by a diamanté love heart. And so began mine (and Elsa’s) love affair with Little Chiyo, and tutus in general. 


Since that moment, Sasha has helped us with birthday tutus, Easter tutus and the most extravagant full length Cinderella inspired tutu for Disney on Ice. 


When we went to Disney on Ice, we were stopped by numerous amounts of people asking where Elsa’s tutu was from, what her name was, how old is she, and some even asked to take photos of her! It’s a testament to Sasha’s amazing work. 


Not only does Sasha make these beautifully handcrafted tutus, but she takes the time to speak to her customers and make sure they are getting exactly what they want. Her customer service is impeccable. 

So, if you’re a tutu lover, you NEED to have at least one of these beauties in your home. 


Little Chiyo Tutus can be purchased by visiting http://www.littlechiyo.com/default.html


*Elsa also wears @little_hearts_ leotards @tootsietoesshoes and @clip_pa_dee_clip hair accessories. You can find these brands on Instagram.